Today is a special day for me—a day of gratitude, growth, transformation, and reflection.
November 28th marks my sober anniversary, and it feels so fitting that it falls on a day when we give thanks.
Nine years. I can’t even believe I’m saying that. Nine years ago, I made the most crucial decision of my life: to stop drinking.
Well, to be honest, I didn’t exactly make the initial choice myself. It was more like my dad stepping in and making it for me. He told me, plain and simple, that I was staying with him and my sister for a while until I “dried out”. There wasn’t a negotiation, no room for argument—just a clear and necessary directive. Looking back, it saved my life. At the time, I was too far gone to see the gift in that intervention, but now I can only feel gratitude. It was the kind of tough love I didn’t know I needed.
At the time, it wasn’t about courage or enlightenment—it was about survival. I wasn’t just losing myself; I was on the brink of losing everything, including my life. I knew if I didn’t stop, I wouldn’t make it.
Those early days were raw and relentless. But today, nine years later, I stay sober because I have to. It’s an inner knowing. But also, I choose to. Sobriety has become more than a necessity—it’s the foundation of the life I’ve built and the person I’ve become. I will never go back to that life. I will never let alcohol control me again.
I am so proud of who I am today—flaws and all. Sobriety hasn’t made me perfect, but it’s made me whole. It’s given me the clarity to connect with myself, to discover who I want to be, what I want to bring into my life, and how to live in alignment with my higher self.
Sobriety has also deepened my relationships. I’ve learned how to be a better sister, daughter, friend, and partner. I’ve learned how to give back and how to truly be present for the people I love. It’s taught me that growth is a never-ending journey, not a destination.
Sobriety has connected me more deeply to the world around me. I feel a profound gratitude for this planet and a responsibility for the impression I leave here. Sobriety has made me acutely aware of the finite nature of life and the infinite wonders of the cosmos. I see our connection to the earth and the universe with new eyes, and it fills me with awe and purpose.
To my love, Jeff, all my family, my friends, and everyone who has supported me through the toughest and brightest moments of these nine years: thank you. You’ve been my anchors and my light.
I share all of this because I believe in the power of connection. If this resonates with you—if you’re on your own path to sobriety or just beginning to ask questions—know that you’re not alone. I’m here if you have questions, or just to hold space for your story.
Nine years sober. It’s more than a milestone—it’s a testament to what’s possible when we choose ourselves, over and over again.
To those celebrating today, whatever it may mean for you, Happy Thanksgiving. And to everyone who is choosing growth, healing, and hope: I see you. Keep going.
Yours,
Casey